SINGLE MOTHERS

OMG! I am so hooked on Keyshia Cole's reality show "The Way It Is." Last week's episode was about her mother Frankie going to the Mary Hall Freedom house in Georgia. She went to share with the women about her struggles with drugs and how it affected her and her children. Hearing her talk reminded me of how I grew up in a single parent home without my dad. He was on drugs and alcohol all my life. He was clean for the past three years and just relapsed. I watched my mother struggle to be "SUPER WOMAN" as most single mom's do to make ends meet. She had two and three jobs to give me and my brother the finer things in life. Growing up without my dad in my home has affected me, however, not something that I use as an excuse to be a victim.

What are your thoughts? Are you a single mother who is raising your children on your own because their mother or father isn't handling their responsibilities? Do you have family members like my dad and Keyshia's mom?

For all of the single mother's out there. Here's a Prayer That Keeps It Real (PTKIR) for you to take with you today.

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Prayers That Keep It Real for: For Single Mother’s

Real Talk: My goal is not to bash men but some of you are a pain. You don’t take care of your responsibilities and you expect your children to understand. You pay child support, but that was only after I had to take you to court three times. You can’t just settle for paying child support. What about spending time with your children? You are truly missing out.

God you have got to be kidding me. You know me, I am not cut out to raise these kids by myself, so why on earth did you allow this to happen? I can’t do it. I am not strong enough, I don’t make enough money and these kids are going to drive me crazy. They need too much. It’s only one of me. I am so drained at the end of the day. I give out to them and I never get anything in return.

They are too young for me to voice how I feel because they wouldn’t even understand. Why did this happen to me? I did everything right. It was their dad that was that left his family. So, why am I being punished again? I had to go and get another job just to make ends meet. Now, I can’t even attend my children’s extra-curricular activities or parent teacher conferences because I am at work. I can tell that my kids have low self-esteem because their father isn’t there. But, you didn’t create me to be the mother and the father. However, I will be the best mother I can.

God, I am so exhausted from crying every night to you. My girlfriends still have their husbands and I get jealous of them because they are no better than me. Why didn’t I marry a man who had some sense? Was I stuck on stupid or what? Why does it seem like my life is such a fluke.

Okay, let me get myself together. Man up girl, man up! God, all I can do is take one day at a time, right? I give all of this worry and stress back to you. It’s too heavy for me to carry. I need you to take care of my kids and me. Help me to hold and not give up. Help me not to hold any grudges against my ex-husband because I do want to get married again at some point. I don’t want to carry any garbage in my next relationship. Keep me in check God. You are my man right now. Date me, talk to me, pray for me, all of that.

I want my children to have 100% of their mommy. I don’t want to cheat them in anyway. I love them so much. I don’t know how to be a mommy, after all, you didn’t provide a manual for that you know? ☺ But, I know you are with me, even when it feels like you are not. So, do what you do best and help me to make it through this day.

Your Desperate Daughter,
The Single Mother

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